John Travolta is reflecting on the loss of wife Kelly Preston as the one-year anniversary of her death approaches.
The Saturday Night Fever actor tells Esquire Spain in an interview translated from Spanish that he learned mourning is a "personal" experience that varies from person to person. He explains, "The most important thing you can do to help another when they are in mourning is to allow them to live it and not complicate it with yours."
Travolta adds that one individual's grief can feel bigger than what you're experiencing, but he learned it's better to let them cope on their own, because their emotions do "not leave enough space for you to mourn."
"Otherwise, it will be two boats plummeting to the bottom. That is my experience," he continues. "Because even though it's great to have company, sometimes it becomes like you're helping them, rather than putting yourself to work overcoming feelings of loss and grief."
The 67-year-old dad adds that a lot of people tried to comfort him after Kelly's death, but it didn't help, saying, "I felt so saturated with everyone's sadness that I didn't know what to do."
Now that he's experienced grief fully, he knows, "If I die tomorrow, the last thing I want to see is that everyone around is sunk."
Travolta tells the magazine that his main priority is finding "joy" in life with his two kids Ella, 21, and Ben, 10, before adding that he's particularly happy when listening to music or dancing.
The actor also recalls the time he and the late Princess Diana danced at a White House gala in November 1985. Travolta sets the scene for readers, describing, "Think of the moment. We are in the White House. It's midnight. The whole stage is like a dream. I go up to her, touch her on the shoulder, ask her to dance."
"She turns around and when she sees me she displays that captivating smile, somewhat sad, and accepts my invitation," he continues. "And there we were, dancing together like in a fairy tale."
For the occasion, Princess Diana wore a now-iconic velvet, off-the-shoulder dress and a sapphire and pearl choker, while Travolta sported a tuxedo.
The Pulp Fiction actor said that even in that moment he knew their dance was a "very special, magical moment" he would never forget. "Who could imagine that something like this is going to happen to you one day?"
Justin Theroux Reveals the "Sage" Advice Jason Bateman Gave Him Amid Jennifer Aniston Relationship
When Justin Theroux was dating his now ex Jennifer Aniston, he received some words of wisdom from Jason Bateman on how to deal with the media attention.
When Justin Theroux was dating Jennifer Aniston, their relationship frequently made headlines. And while dealing with the media frenzy, the actor received "one of the most sage pieces of advice ever" from Jason Bateman.
"He said, 'Look, in that side of the entertainment industry, a character is about to be born. And that character is you, but it's not you,'" Theroux recalled in a teaser for his upcoming Sunday Today With Willie Geist interview. "'That character is, you know, angry; that character has got a problem; that character is, you know, sweet. It's just this little soap opera that gets written in the margins. And he said, 'And so, my advice is don't follow that guy's storyline.'"
The Mosquito Coast star said he stuck to Bateman's words of wisdom. As he put it, "That's the only way you can keep sane in all that."
Aniston and Theroux started dating in 2011 and got engaged in 2012, tying the knot in 2015. But just a few years later, the two announced they'd broken up at the end of 2017, noting they were "two best friends" who'd "decided to part ways as a couple" and looked forward to continuing their "cherished friendship."
And they have. From celebrating holidays together to sending each other birthday wishes, the exes have remained on good terms. In fact, Theroux recently told Esquire he and the actress call, text and FaceTime now and then.
"Like it or not, we didn't have that dramatic split, and we love each other," he told the magazine. "I'm sincere when I say that I cherish our friendship. We can not be together and still bring each other joy and friendship. Also, she makes me laugh very, very hard. She's a hilarious person. It would be a loss if we weren't in contact, for me personally. And I'd like to think the same for her."
Aniston has also said she considers her marriages, which also include her five years of matrimony with Brad Pitt, to be "very successful."
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